Classy or Tacky?

Should you ask for money instead of gifts? — You should never include a request for cash in your invitation. It’s rude and considered tacky.  If you would really prefer money over a gift, let your wedding party and family know. They will likely pass around the information to guests that ask about gifts.

Adults only reception? — How do you politely tell your guests that the reception is adults only? Make sure your invitations are addressed in a way that clearly states which individuals in the family are invited. For example, instead of addressing the invite to “The Johnsons”, address it to “Brian and Kathy Johnson”. It makes it clear to the recipient exactly who’s been invited. Another option to consider is hiring a sitter during the reception. This way, the kids are being taken care of while you enjoy your adults only reception!

Do I tip the service? How much? — Many couples wonder if they should feel obligated to tip the service they have hired (band/DJ, the caterer, etc.). Tips are generally given as a reward for exceptional service. If you do decide to tip, 10 percent of the total cost of service is an appropriate amount. While tips are expected for services such as transportation and bartenders, don’t feel like you need to dish out the cash unless you’re impressed by a job well done.

When to say thanks? — It is appropriate to have those thank you letters sent out by the time 1 month comes around. It’s really better to get them done sooner rather than later. Even if you’re running a bit behind on getting them mailed, it’s better to send them out late than not at all! The note will always be appreciated.